Anyboby on here been through a divorce? Just looking for some advice thanks.

9 years and 10 months ago I went through a divorce after 32 years of marriage. I didn't get a high end expensive attorney, but he was an attorney that specialized in divorces. I went into my attorneys office with up to date financial statements which he looked at and asked if the numbers were real. I said yes and he said well you are not going to get out of this without paying her half. I didn't s...

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In my case, She told me the farm was a business that would make income and she should get part of that income going forward. I said ok how much will you pay me, you can take the “business” and I’ll take my share. What she offers to pay you…. That’s the value, and you’ll likely have to pay her that. But will your landlo...

If you have been married for any length of time then basically your spouse is entitled to at least 50% of the net value of your marital estate. This would not include any property or assets that either of you had before the marriage, gifts or inheritance that you or your spouse may have received after your marriage, which by the way would have to have documented proof. A local judge will most like...

My ex wife left me after 3months married but it took 2.5 yrs to finally be rid of her. Like said before I kind of saw it coming and never filed taxes together, married filing separately, never shared monies so it was easy to prove she contributed nothing to farming operation. Had my daughter born 6months after she left hence reason for getting married. That has been the real battle, the ups and do...

I got divorced after 7 years of marriage and two kids. It was very difficult but I could not go on living with her. She was a psychotic b  and it had gotten to the point where I hated going home which made things difficult after very long days on the farm. I had become very depressed. She was also very unhappy. I wish I could have made it work for the kids, but I failed. I was at an advan...

I went thru a divorce after 30 years of marriage. Saved as much as I could and was very frugal (unlike my ex) to be able to retire at 55. A week after into retirement she filed for divorce four months months after out 30th anniversary.

So all Incan recommend is to keep the kids out of it and don’t say anything about their mother, look at it like a business transaction and negotiate the best deal...

I have, and I’m sorry that you are going through this.

First of all accept that this is happening even if you don’t agree. Also keep things amicable, your integrity is worth keeping intact. This is an opportunity for you to focus and improve yourself. Take time to mourn this loss, then slowly regain the Joy in life. You’ve got this! The fear of losing the equipment is just that, a fear. I understa...

I've got to echo what   says above. If that's not possible there are lots of "if's". Mine was irreconcilable. If there's young kids it becomes even trickier and would suggest you focus on them. Bankers have way more power legally than most think, they can flat out tell the judge "no" and he has to come to some other agreement. They (bankers) have the final say in division of loans and col...

Let me plant a seed that may not develop, because that's what I've attempted as a farmer of 30 years. Since we as farmers make resource allocation decisions each year, I would put this decision in the same category. I would humbly suggest that you reflect on the concept of reconciliation. Divorce or reconciliation, which commands the best allocation of resources? I've been married for 33 year...

She will get half of anything after date of marriage until divorce is final, it’s unfortunate but it is what it is. Negotiate and stipulate to as much as possible out of court. I had a nasty 2 year battle and the lawyers took a lot of equity. My best advice, get a great lawyer and help her get an EXCELLENT one if you can. My ex’s lawyer was on the verge of retirement, completely inept and greedy s...

What I ended up doing after watching two lawyers get rich (hers and mine) for about a year, was packaged everything up neatly meaning balance sheet and bank notes and told her lawyer they can have the entire farm. INCLUDING all the DEBT and all I would like is her 401k account. Lol. Ended up fighting over the lawn mower which she got. Moral is...hand the farm the headaches the crops in the f...